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And kid, you’ve got to love yourself. You’ve got wake up at four in the morning, brew black coffee, and stare at the birds drowning in the darkness of the dawn. You’ve got to sit next to the man at the train station who’s reading your favorite book and start a conversation. You’ve got to come home after a bad day and burn your skin from a shower. Then you’ve got to wash all your sheets until they smell of lemon detergent you bought for four dollars at the local grocery store. You’ve got to stop taking everything so goddam personally. You are not the moon kissing the black sky. You’ve got to compliment someones crooked brows at an art fair and tell them that their eyes remind you of green swimming pools in mid July. You’ve got to stop letting yourself get upset about things that won’t matter in two years. Sleep in on Saturday mornings and wake yourself up early on Sunday. You’ve got to stop worrying about what you’re going to tell her when she finds out. You’ve got to stop over thinking why he stopped caring about you over six months ago. You’ve got to stop asking everyone for their opinions. Fuck it. Love yourself, kiddo. You’ve got to love yourself.
  1. push yourself to get up before the rest of the world - start with 7am, then 6am, then 5:30am. go to the nearest hill with a big coat and a scarf and watch the sun rise.

    2. push yourself to fall asleep earlier - start with 11pm, then 10pm, then 9pm. wake up in the morning feeling re-energized and comfortable.

    3. erase processed food from your diet. start with no lollies, chips, biscuits, then erase pasta, rice, cereal, then bread. use the rule that if a child couldn’t identify what was in it, you don’t eat it.

    4. get into the habit of cooking yourself a beautiful breakfast. fry tomatoes and mushrooms in real butter and garlic, fry an egg, slice up a fresh avocado and squirt way too much lemon on it. sit and eat it and do nothing else.

    5. stretch. start by reaching for the sky as hard as you can, then trying to touch your toes. roll your head. stretch your fingers. stretch everything.

    6. buy a 1L water bottle. start with pushing yourself to drink the whole thing in a day, then try drinking it twice.

    7. buy a beautiful diary and a beautiful black pen. write down everything you do, including dinner dates, appointments, assignments, coffees, what you need to do that day. no detail is too small.

    8. strip your bed of your sheets and empty your underwear draw into the washing machine. put a massive scoop of scented fabric softener in there and wash. make your bed in full.

    9. organise your room. fold all your clothes (and bag what you don’t want), clean your mirror, your laptop, vacuum the floor. light a beautiful candle.

    10. have a luxurious shower with your favourite music playing. wash your hair, scrub your body, brush your teeth. lather your whole body in moisturiser, get familiar with the part between your toes, your inner thighs, the back of your neck.

    11. push yourself to go for a walk. take your headphones, go to the beach and walk. smile at strangers walking the other way and be surprised how many smile back. bring your dog and observe the dog’s behaviour. realise you can learn from your dog.

    12. message old friends with personal jokes. reminisce. suggest a catch up soon, even if you don’t follow through. push yourself to follow through.

    14. think long and hard about what interests you. crime? sex? boarding school? long-forgotten romance etiquette? find a book about it and read it. there is a book about literally everything.

    15. become the person you would ideally fall in love with. let cars merge into your lane when driving. pay double for parking tickets and leave a second one in the machine. stick your tongue out at babies. compliment people on their cute clothes. challenge yourself to not ridicule anyone for a whole day. then two. then a week. walk with a straight posture. look people in the eye. ask people about their story. talk to acquaintances so they become friends.

    16. lie in the sunshine. daydream about the life you would lead if failure wasn’t a thing. open your eyes. take small steps to make it happen for you.

jeffrey-lynne:

[licks popsicle seductively] yeah big boy this isn’t the only thing i can suck [winks] [lowers voice] i also suck at life

govthookercoulson:

titssmagee:

outrotting:

g0dsand-m0nsters:

justwatchthesunrise:

keldulmo:

i don’t think i’ve ever agreed with anything more than what this man is saying

watch this. seriously

yes yes yes yes yes

this is amazing

this guy is so sick 

I needed this right now. Anyone taking finals needs this right now.

I’m about to turn 30. I could have been valedictorian when I graduated High School but I was too lazy to complete the forms. I have a Bachelor’s from DeVry, where I left with an average 3.2 carrying an average course load of 18 credit hours (peak 24, nadir 14). I also have an Associate’s from a local college, and I am Phi Theta Kappa there.

Here’s what I can tell you.

No employer has ever asked for my GPA. No employer ever gave a SHIT about my grades. DeVry only cared about my ACT score, and my Bachelor’s lost me jobs because I was “overqualified”. Now that I’m using my Associate’s, no one cares about my grades, or degree. My employer cares about A) my hours, B) my practical quals.

Unless you’re pushing for the Ivy League, no one is going to care about your grades. Ever. Amen. So I say to you this: 3.0 or above works for most but honestly, just get a good score on your ACT or SAT (and remember, you can retake it!). College is not a guarantee of a good life or even a paycheck. If anything it’s a near-guarantee of crippling debt.

THAT DOES NOT MEAN DO NOT GO, but for god’s sake do your research on your degree. Know what to expect. Colleges are marketing departments and will tell you sweet lies to get your money because college doesn’t care and won’t coddle you.

DO SOMETHING THAT YOU LOVE. Find a way to make money in a way that you enjoy. It might not be the thing you enjoy most, but if you like it and it pays for what you enjoy most, well. That might be good enough.

Read. Travel. Take risks. Fuck up, try again. But enjoy it.

Godspeed.

when you feel you have lost everything, you still have

dearscience:

  • books
  • unexpected kindness in strangers
  • the rest of the world to travel
  • languages to learn
  • animals to take care of
  • volunteer work to do
  • the power of a good night’s rest
  • the changing of seasons
  • infinite things to learn
  • billions of people to meet and possibly love
  • billions of people who might love you back

brendonbrandon:

magnoliazolia:

our world is kind of awful 

No. Our world is great. For every one person that plants a bomb, you have hundreds more running a marathon. For every one person that makes a joke about the dead and dying, you have thousands more donating blood, offering prayers, and volunteering their time. Things like this are the fault of single individuals who make violent, loud statements. We just have to make sure that the statements of the good are louder.

5 Functions of Non-verbal Body Language

psych-facts:

1. Affirms 

This is where somebody’s body language confirms or emphasizes what they are saying. For example, if someone says they are bored, adding in a ‘sigh’ really shows or confirms that they are bored. More examples might be when someone talks about something exciting happening and they jump up and down or when they talk about something really funny and they grin or laugh out loud. Affirming non-verbals validates what they are saying as real.  

2. Contradict

Opposite of reinforcing or confirming a non-verbal is when somebody’s verbal statements and behaviors are in contradiction. For example, when someone says they are fine, but they are frowning or crying. More examples are when someone says they are happy, but they say it with a neutral face or when someone tease another person but smiles. 

3. Substitution

Sometimes, someone may not say anything and communicate a lot through non-verbals. For example, they may be silent when you ask them how their day went. The silence is the non-verbal meaning to tell you that their day didn’t go so well, that they don’t really want to talk about it, or that something else is going on for them. Other examples are like non-verbal signs such as the thumps up, thumps down, or hand waving where you don’t really need to say anything and the message is clear. 

4.  Complementing 

This is sort of similar to ‘affirming non-verbals,’ but the difference is that they not only validate what someone says, but add another message on top of that. For example, when someone says they are upset about something and punches or slaps the table, they are saying that they are also really angry. 

5. Accenting 

This is sort of similar to ‘affirming non-verbals’ as well except it’s really used to reinforce or increase the intensity of an expressed emotion. For example, when little kids cry louder and louder to show that they are really upset or in pain. 

I’m currently taking a course with onlinecounsellingcollege.tumblr.com and learning this stuff. If you guys like to know more about the course, message me and I’ll refer you to onlinecounsellingcollege.tumblr.com. 

In addition, here are two more links to learn about body language: 

1. What are your attractive body language? (survey)

2. What your body language says to others? (information) 

psycho

kpchristensen:

the bottom line here is that i love learning but i hate school because school drains everything good from you and replaces it with anxiety and depression and feelings of inadequacy in people that are incredible and talented and skilled

thecakebar:

Chocolate Cheesecake Squares! (recipe)

thecakebar:

Chocolate Cheesecake Squares! (recipe)

alldayfoodporn:

Garlic Cheesy Bread -recipe

alldayfoodporn:

Garlic Cheesy Bread -recipe